It's So Nice To Be Nice

The last line of that email is fallacious in that the “in today’s world” line suggests there was once time that this wasn’t the case. I don’t believe that’s true.

It’s human nature to covet ‘things’ and to use others to our benefit, and it always has been. If anything, our “stuff loving” is probably less prevalent now-a-days as our actual survival doesn’t depend as much on the acquisition of goods, despite the fact that we acquire more things, and consume more resources, than ever before.

With that said, I do agree with the core message of the email, and the sentiments you’ve expressed in your post, Danielle. I can’t say I’ve committed my life to helping others, but I generally value people more than I do “stuff”. And while I value the few possessions I have, I don’t put much stock in the acquisition of things. I make a decent living, still I don’t own an expensive car (heck, I don’t even drive), wear expensive clothes, or even own a cell phone. That sort of thing just doesn’t appeal to me at all.

As for your question; I think everyone uses people to some extent, but I try use people (directly) as little as possible. I’m something of an introvert in that I try to limit my contact, interaction and dependence on others. And again, while I value people far more than I do material things, I won’t pretend that I like most people very much. Sadder still, the list of people I do like grows smaller every year.

– Peace

I think we have every intention of using people or situations for our benefit or gain, but in the master plan, we must also consider at that moment are we not also being used or have become a gain to someone else? I usually live me life for God, self and family, but along the way if someone got over on me or came out ahead it didn’t matter, because I left satisfied, but at 46 years old, I am still growing.

Thanks for coming and for commenting.

I would like to elaborate however, just for clarification. In the post I mention that I’m looking for a new perspective, growth, and renewal. And I believe that all relationships have the opportunity to do just this, to teach a lesson, even if the lesson is on what not to do, what steps to avoid. So, yes, in my opinion, I’m always getting something; that’s just my approach to life, to look for the lesson….to look for the purpose in every relationship, every connection, every meeting.

In regards to your last point, one of the reasons why I created the blog was to do exactly what my subtitle says, remember to treat people well. I’m not perfect, nor do I profess to be. From previous posts and my purpose page, I make it quite clear that I’m on a journey to improving my character and how I treat people at work, school, and in my personal relationships. Specifically on the purpose page, I state the following: On this blog, you can expect regular musings about a few missing links in the quest for success in our world: courtesy, politeness, honesty, respect, and helpfulness . In addition, I will also discuss my struggles for the same.

I hope this helps……

Whoa; I think you’re reading too much into what Danielle said, Biggpop. I don’t think that her ‘intentionally setting out to form relationships for personal gain’ is any indication that she would ignore others for whom she couldn’t foreseeable benefit from directly.

If I say: “I make a point to support local artist and independent film makers”. It doesn’t mean that I won’t support others artists and Hollywood film makers as well.

I could be wrong, but I believe she was only talking about instances where she’s actively formed relationships that would benefit her in some direct way, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing anyway, since we usually benefit from relationships in some way or another. Again, this doesn’t mean that she’s limited to ONLY pursuing relationships to her benefit — but I can’t really speak for her.

It’s just not the impression I got from his post.

– Peace

Danielle, thank you for clarifying. If I came off like I was attacking you or judging you please accept my sincere apologies. I can see where what I wrote would seem that way and I loved your way of responding. If we knew each other personally I think we would have a lively and enjoyable debate on this topic.
Retro, thank you as well for your input I do see your point.
Again Danielle I didn’t mean to attack you in any way. I wish you all the best. I’ll stop by once in a while and offer my two cents.
Have a great day.